Our all inclusive membership benefits

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A handcrafted pen portrait of you (your profile)

Based on the information you supply on your application from, we will hand craft a personal profile about you allowing others to get to know the real you. This is the first impression other members will get of you so we work hard to ensure that it represents the unique you.

Professional photoshoot

A complimentary photoshoot with a professional photographer in your local vicinity. This ensures you’ll have fabulous photos on your profile – and what’s more it’s a fun thing to have done (however much you hate having your photo taken!). It’s all part of making a great first impression.

Number of photographs included in your profile

This is the optional number of  photographs that can be included in your profile for no extra charge. We recommend one good head and shoulders picture and the others to be pictures that illustrate you in your life.

Your profile circulated to members every month
Every month your profile will be circulated to all the members on our books who are in the age range that you’ve specified. This means that every month you could be contacted by someone who is just who you are looking for.
Frequency of members' profiles sent to you

This is the frequency at which you will receive a postal private and individually selected mailing of other single Christians’ profiles.

3 methods for others to contact you (telephone, email, letter)

All members are given a dedicated friendsfirst box number which enables members to write to each other without their addresses being made public. In addition you can choose to include an email address and up to 3 telephone numbers on your profile – giving members other ways to easily contact you.

1:1 coaching session with our dating expert (mins)

This telephone interview gives you expert advice tailored to your own personal circumstances to ensure you make your membership (and dating experience with us or elsewhere)  a success.

Complimentary copy of the 'Top Tips' book
We’ve condensed all our years of experience in helping members be successful with us and compiled it into our book: ‘Top Tips for making new friends and enjoying successful relationships’. Packed full of common sense and wise guidance, and amusingly illustrated, you’ll find it gives you a head start to making your membership successful.
Specific dating book relevant to your marital status

Whether you are single, widowed or divorced we have a book that will assist you in your journey of meeting your soul mate. We get rave reviews about each of them and you’ll receive your copy as your membership commences. The books are ‘How to be the One’ by Roy Sheppard; ‘Dating After Divorce’ by Revd David Robertson and ‘Looking for Love the second time round’ by Katharine Gray.

Members' exclusive magazine - Cloudnine

Discreetly sent to you in the post, our bi monthly newsletter is full of news, relevant articles and other useful information to assist you and keep you motivated during your membership.


We regularly organise events in different parts of the country. There’s a small booking (administration) fee to attend. You can attend as many as you like. View our events page to see what is coming up in the future.

Regular motivational email
Our bi-weekly emails will drop into your inbox to keep you energised and focused, giving you great ideas, pauses for thought and plenty to keep you motivated. They will keep you focused on your goal and always encouraged.
Personal support by telephone
Throughout your membership you can contact our experienced staff (by telephone) to get assistance with any aspect of your membership.  You will also receive telephone calls from our staff – our ‘matchmakers’ to make sure your membership is working for you, that you are contacting other members and getting out and about meeting new people. It’s this support and personal involvement that has led hundreds of people to finding their ideal match.
Access to view other members' video profiles

Any member who has a video profile of themselves will have a unique video code on their profile which members receive as part of their profile mailing. Put this unqiue code into the members’ only section of our website and you will be able to watch that members’ video. It’s a great way to get a good idea of what the other member is like.

Critique of letter/email/photographs

This service enables you to have any photo or piece of communcation you intend to send to another member, professionally critiqued by our team. We’ll help you get it right – making it more interesting and making sure you create a fabulous first impression to get the results you want. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels)

Membership review after 6 months

After six months we will formally review your membership with you to see if anything can be improved or tweaked to ensure you are getting the most out of your membership, and getting the contact you want. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels.)

30 minute profile write up telephone interview

Following a 30 minute telephone interview with you where we find out about you, your life and your interests in more detail, we’ll write up a fuller and more in depth profile which will set you apart from other members who only complete our standard application form. This service is based on the fact that most of us find it really hard to write well about ourselves and describe ourselves in appealing ways. It’s so much easier when someone else asks the questions and draws out the relevant information from us – and that’s exactly what this service does. You’ll be amazed at how different and better your profile reads after this service has been delivered. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels.)

Personalised friendsfirst email address

A personalised friendsfirst email address allows others to send you email direct to your personal inbox but without your revealing your email address on your profile. It gives you added confidentiality without reducing your accessibility and ease of contact by other members. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels.)

'Finding Someone Special' toolkit

This comprehensive guide to the art (and science) of meeting new people and ultimately finding a soul mate whatever your age, marital history or background. It includes a monster-sized wealth of essential learning and a practical tool kit you can apply to yourself, your life and your current situation; all tried, tested and ready to put to work to ensure you are successful in YOUR life finding the happiness YOU deserve. Read more by clicking here: finding someone special. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels.)

Video profile of you viewable only by members

With this service you’ll have a short recorded video of yourself which other members will be able to access (through our website) when they receive your unique vidoe code on your proilfe. A video profile shows others members the true esence of your in a way that written words can’t. (Only included in Gold and Platinum membership levels.)

'Open to God' prayer Resource

This is an amazing prayer resource – written by the renowned Christian author Sheila Jacobs – which uses the ancient prayer method ‘Lectio Divina’ to help you pray through specific parts of the Bible (relevant to dating) and hear clearly through them God speaking to you. Find out more by visiting our Open to God webpage. (Only included in our Platinum membership level.)

Face to face interview - membership set up and coaching

A face to face interview (or skype if you live too far from our Head office) where we will set up your membership with you – but also give you some serious membership and dating coaching that will expedite your dating success and ensure you are setting off on this journey with the very best mindset and skills. You’d need to set aside at least 3 hours for this meeting. (Only included in our Platinum membership level.)

Dedicated page featuring you in our members' magazine - Cloudnine

With this service your profile, with a professional photograph of you , will be included in our members’ only magazine. A beautifully designed page ensuring all members will see your profile irrespective of what age criteria they have selected for profiles. (Only included in our Platinum membership level.)

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