Why having a great dating profile is so important
By Katharine Gray
When you join any sort of dating website, agency or app, the first thing people see of your is your profile. (Well they’ll probably first see your dating pictures) but your profile is closely connected with your pictures. People will get a first impression from what they read about you – and this first impression is really really important.
Now you know yourself really well and when you read your profile, you’ll be reading between the lines, filling in all the gaps in your head so that your profile will probably sound OK to you, but, other people don’t have that knowledge and they can only go on what you’ve written. If what you’ve written sounds like what everyone else has written, you’re not going to stand out from the crowd and standing out from the crowd is very important in dating – because as you know there are billions of dating profiles out there.
So many profiles say that the person likes going to the cinema and theatre. But what does that tell you about someone? Very little. And most people enjoy going out to eat – again what does that tell you about them? Very little.
Let’s be honest. Writing your own profile – even if you were JK Rowling or C.S Lewis is a really hard thing to do. How you see yourself and how others see you is different. Moreover it’s quite hard to portray one’s finest qualities and characteristics in a way that comes across attractively and not narcissistically.
That’s why having a friend write a profile for you is a great thing to do – and why the friendsfirst enhanced profile service is so valued. Over 30 minutes we ask you lots of different questions – questions that get much more to the heart of who you are, that find out what really makes you tick, what inspires you, what motivates you, what guides you. And from your answers we put together a profile of you that is interesting, enticing and that makes others want to get in touch. Every single profile we write after this 30 minute interview comes out completely different – of course it does – every single person is wonderfully unique. And every one is interesting to read. We’re good at what we do – not just because we’ve been writing dating profiles for a long time now – but we know what works – what attracts people and what puts them off.
This is important because having other people get in touch with you is what it’s all about. And the right sort of people getting in touch as well. People who have the type of character that is going to work with your character and personality.
So next time you join a dating site and throw up a hastily put-together profile, remember that you’re doing yourself a massive disfavour. Because if it’s a shoddy profile, lots of people will glance at it and move straight on to the next one. You wont know that this is what is happening to your dating profile – you’ll probably just think it’s something to do with you – like your not attractive enough or not x, y or z enough – which quite frankly will not the case. But then you’ll think that dating doesn’t work and you’ll give up – and all because you didn’t get your profile right.
A great dating profile stops people in their tracks (or swiping or looking at the next profile). It makes them imagine what life with you would be like. It makes them want to find out more. Most importantly it makes them want to contact you – it makes them contact you – and that’s what it’s all about. Being contacted. Getting more connections. Meeting new people. Finding the One.
So make sure you have a great dating profile. It’s a worthwhile investment and one you should invest your time and money in.
FAQ’s on Dating Profiles
What should I write on my dating profile?
Start with the truth! There’s no point making our you are something you’re not. Give others a bit of background about yourself so they know who you are and where you ‘come’ from. Think about the most interesting things that others would like to know about you – remember that there are millions of profiles out there so you want to stand out. You are totally unique so you can stand out – if you’ll just spend some time and effort crafting the best profile you can. Tell people about your interests and hobbies – what makes you tick. Tell them about your faith and how it affects your life. Tell them about your aspirations. Try and make your profile bring a smile to readers face. That’s very enticing – and if you can genuinely make the other person laugh that’s a great bonus. Don’t sweat if you can’t! Don’t’ be too specific about what you are looking for in someone else. This narrows your field – and you don’t want to do that at this point. Make sure it’s written in good English and have someone read it for you before you go public with it.
How do you introduce yourself on a dating profile?
Introducing yourself on a dating profile is like saying the most interesting thing to someone you’ve just met at a party. You want to grab their attention so start with something that does just that. Try not to be boring and do what everyone else does. Remember you’re trying to stand out from the crowd. Once you’ve caught someone’s attention then the hard work is done. Remember when you introduce yourself you are creating a first impression so work hard to make it a good one.