Making a decision based on age

by | Apr 11, 2011 | Common Issues | 0 comments


It’s quite common for us to speak to friendsfirst members about the profiles they’ve received from us and to hear comments like “Oh I don’t want to contact him/her, he/she’s too old.”

Our response is always the same and I hope you’ll give it some thought. Age is purely a number. Yes one can generalise and say that most people in their 20s and 30s are going to be fairly young in outlook and fit and active. But it’s a generalisation. Not every 20 or 30 year old is young in outlook. I have met some 28 year olds who act as if they are 50.

And in the same way I have met some 75 year olds who are going on 60. In fact some people in their 70s and 80s are spring chickens – full of energy and life – still active and full of life and vitality.

The problem about looking at someone’s friendsfirst profile and looking at their age first and making a decision based on that, is that your perception about what someone of that age is going to be like, may be quite quite wrong for that particular individual. Of course your perception might be correct but it also might be quite wrong – and if you are wrong and don’t contact them as a result, you’ll never know what you might be missing.

We recommend looking at the broader picture – and best of all, contacting everyone we send you. If your first reaction to someone’s profile is that they are too old (or too young) for you, then check it out for yourself. Give them a ring, or write them a letter – and see for yourself if your perception is correct. You may be surprised at what you find – and in the process find yourself making far more friends – and even finding someone quite special who is perfect for you.

At the end of the day, we are all growing older, but really age is not a number, it’s a factor of outlook on life, how healthy our bodies are and how we deal with what life has given us. Please don’t let a number stop you from finding your perfect partner.