I’m continuing on with a theme I started in my last post- and it’s about perservance – because that is the name of the game when you are dating and trying to meet new people.

Yesterday I had a difficult phone call from a lovely lady I’d met at one of our London dinners. She had a good old rant and rave at me – indeed I couldn’t get a word in edgeways for at least 15 minutes – and she was quite exhausting to listen to – not least because of the speed at which she was talking. [A note here is to always try and pick up how you are coming across to others when you’re on the phone to them. I didn’t tell her that if she’d done anything similar with a new friendship she’d be shooting herself in the foot!]

Now she told me how many set backs she’d been having – describing each one in detail – and how as a result she was thinking of giving up, packing it all in and making do with life as a single person – despite the fact she really does want to be with someone and not be on her own any longer. As she spoke I was reminded of St. Paul’s writing to the Philippians and his exhortion of them to not count the cost of their troubles but to press on towards the goal before them:

“Forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead, I press on towards the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenwards in Christ Jesus.” (Phil 3 13 – 14)

St Paul was on a mission to preach Christ and nothing was going to stop him doing that – not earthquakes, not poverty, non imprisonment, not the loss of friends, indeed not any difficulty.

You have to have the same mindset at St. Paul in your quest to find a loving partner. Yes chances are bad things are going to happen along the way – you are going to be discouraged; some people won’t answer your letters or phone calls; some people will treat you badly – and sometimes you’re going to feel awful about it all.

But the key thing here is to take a note from St. Pauls book. Keep your goal fixed in your mind – and then the things that happen along the way won’t put you off your course. Keep in your minds eye the happiness you will find when you find your soul mate – and keep running the race to find them with this in mind. Then you’ll be able to persevere and you will reach your goal I assure you.